Season of Singleness

I love the fact that God has given me this season of singleness to get to know Him more and cherish all the wonderful gifts He wants to share with me. This past week I was able to share my time and talents and join my church in a week of Vacation Bible School (VBS). Spending the week focused on sharing stories and singing songs with kids of all ages was such a blessing. 


As young woman we often like to attempt to take control of different situations, especially when a nice-looking, young man walks into the room. For instance, trying to entice him in an engaging conversation, putting on lip gloss before going to an event he would be at, inviting him to a dinner party, etc... Focusing so much time and attention on trying to attract a potential takes away from getting to know Christ better. Personally, for me, by Handing Over the Pen to  Christ, especially when it comes to finding a husband, allows me to focus on growing in areas that will please Him and focus on a life serving others. I could sit around at home, on the couch, watching TV, and wallow in my own self pity, while putting my life on hold until Mr. Right shows up; or I can live my life building and intimate and everlasting relationship with Christ, serving Him and trusting in his Love and Mercy.

I think one of the common misconceptions people think about when they say one giving my life and relationships to Christ is that I have cut myself off from others, especially those of the opposite sex.  This is not the case. God has brought many Godly men into my life over the past few years. Through these relationships I have learned to give them back to God and entrust them to Him. If it is His desire for us to move beyond the level of friendship than it would. Sometimes, as woman, we get so caught up in letting our desires take over our heart and body when it comes to a wishing for a friendship to become more, that we begin to daydream and almost idolize ourselves with the other person. And while, that is a natural temptation of our heart, it does not need to enslave us. I will admit that there are times when I have caught myself doing this on many occasions, but I have learned that when I do find this happening that instead of succumbing to these emotions I give them back up to God. God knows the deepest desires of our hearts and He will satisfy our needs, but in His time not ours. Having these feelings are not bad, but letting the feelings overcome me to the point of obsession is. Therefore, I have learned to say a pray for that particular person and his future, even his future spouse or a loved one who is need the Lord's guidance. Surrendering my emotions and my feelings to Christ, sometimes at multiple times, has helped me to continue to trust in Him. Through these actions and practices I have learned to allow Christ to take hold of my feelings and thoughts, rather than them taking hold of me.

Currently, I am reading a book by Leslie Ludy called Sacred Singleness. In one of the chapters in the book she mentions that "Christ-built men are not hoping and praying for an aggressive woman who flirts and flaunts, but for a truly set apart woman who jealously guards her feminine mystique" (Ludy, p. 82, 2009). If it is God's will He has already chosen a wonderful, godly man for me. He has already scripted the perfect love story for us, and He has helped both of us build up an intimate relationship with Him that will only bring both of us closer together as couple. While for some this idea may seem to far-fetched on the surface, if you take a closer more intimate look it is just a wonderful reminder of His Love and Mercy. 

Each relationship with Christ is different. But I truly know and believe that He fulfills needs and desires, as well as our hearts with love: 


"What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the human heart conceived. what God has prepared for those who love him" -- 1st Corinthians 2:9


Therefore, I strongly encourage you to give your heart and your desires to Christ. Pray to Him, confide in Him, trust in His love and mercy, but more importantly be patient with Him. Allow Him to show you what He wants best for you, not what you want best for yourself and Him. Choosing to love Him more than anything else in this world, including those close to me, has brought me so much happiness and joy. I will not lie, the journey is not always easy, but it has already been more rewarding than I could have ever imagined myself; this is only the beginning. For one day, when the time comes, He will introduce me to another wonderful man, 2nd in comparison to Him, and knowing that I have used this time to build an intimate relationship with My Christ and to be content in all that Christ has given me. For even the perfect relationship has its ups and downs. I believe the song Alive by Natalie Grant perfectly sums up the intimate relationship God has in store for each one of us. 

 Who but You
Could breathe and leave a trail of galaxies
And dream of me?

What kind of love
Is writing my story till the end
With Mercy's Pen?
Only You.

What kind of King
Would choose to wear a crown
that bleeds and scars
To win my heart.

What kind of Love
Tells me I'm the reason He can't stay
Inside the grave

You.
Is it You?
Standing here before my eyes
Every part of my heart cries.

Alive, Alive
Look what Mercy's overcome
Death has lost and Love has won!

Only He can fully satisfy the longing in my heart and soul For it is only through an intimate relationship with Christ, that my heart will forever remain fulfilled and satisfied through Him. How could I not be in love with such a wonderful Prince?!? For it is because of Him I am Alive today!